Life Skills Blog

March 23rd, 2009 | by Lynn | Tags: Blood Pressure, Emotional Health and Wellbeing, Forgiveness, Health, Kids and Teens, Quality of life, Relationships 

This is part one in a 3 part series.  My hope is for you to gain some insight for personal growth.

Finding time to fix the broken links in your life is overwhelming and exhausting.  We are not very good of being aware which areas are critical to fix now and which are not so important.  As a growing society of over worked parents, over scheduled children and “keeping up with the Jones” lifestyle, we do not understand what priorities are important in our lives.  We seem to only be capable of those that make us look good to others.  Is that what we want for our kids?

It is a recipe for disaster.  One recipe we tried not to make with our kids.  And NOW one we are going to reinforce with our 5 grandchildren. (Mostly to be sure that their parents remember what they were taught…lest they forget! )

(((Hey Guys!!!!  :-0  )))

So where do you want to Remedy your life?  Get out your Minds EYE Journal and make a list.  Start it on a new page or better yet, in a new section.  Please put a date on it.  As you go back and re-evaluate your Remedies, you’ll be able to see what you have been able to accomplish, what you have changed, if you don’t agree with your earlier evaluation and all the thoughts that come with constantly evaluating your remedy.

There is a super magazine named Remedy Life that had a great related article recently.  The following is only part of the article.  Make sure to stop by or subscribe to my Feed to get the remaining ways you can help to Remedy your life!

52 Ways That You Can Change Your Life for the Better

edited by Kalia Doner

Once a week, for a year, resolve to do something to improve your quality of life. Just make a ripple. You’ll reap the benefits. When you take steps to improve your life, you feel more in control of the present and future; that leads to more beneficial decision-making, which makes you feel happier. The result can be better health, a more resilient nature and improved ability to cope with difficulties. Here we suggest two powerful steps to get you started. Then look at the categories of family, love, work, money and health. Peruse and choose, week after week.

1. Embrace change. Bend like a willow or snap like an oak? In the strong winds of life, the resilient person is flexible and embraces change. Jennifer Cohen, author of No Gym Required: How to Unleash Your Inner Rockstar, suggests that whenever you feel stuck, stressed or unproductive, take a break and do a few exercises to clear your mind and reboot the system. Then rock ‘n’ roll again.

2. Cultivate patience. Impatience comes from taking the short view, and it can cause stress, upset stomach, elevated blood pressure and strain on both the heart and relationships. As M. J. Ryan points out in The Power of Patience, becoming more patient can help you become kinder, less angry, more likable and more productive.

Finding Love
Take heart! Romance is alive and well.
By Kalia Doner

“If you feel like you are not making connections with people, the first thing you have to do is learn to love yourself,“ says Michelle DeAngelis, a corporate consultant, coach and author of Get a Life That Doesn’t Suck: 10 Surefire Ways to Live Life and Love the Ride. “The good news is that loving yourself takes the same tools as loving someone else.” DeAngelis suggests these first steps to learning to love:

3. Praise yourself and others. Take time daily to praise what you like about yourself, and make it a point to tell others what you like about them.

4. Learn to apologize. If you are harsh with yourself, apologize to yourself, and vow to do better next time. Critical of someone else? Do the same: Apologize.

5. Forgive and forget. Be compassionate with yourself when you make a mistake. When others goof up, forgive them and speak reassuringly and gently.

Mending a Broken Heart

The blame game is the number one way people add fuel to the emotional fire after a breakup. “When you let go of blame, you let go of anger, and that opens the door to forgiveness. Then you can begin to repair your heart,” says DeAngelis. She also suggests you come up with a mantra such as “My heart is expanding, minute by minute” or “My heart is free and open.” Repeat it to yourself whenever you feel angry, sad or confused.

6. Commit a loving act. Allow your heart to open up. A good way is to volunteer to help at a local school (children are great love-inducers) or nursing home or with any community project you like.

7. Celebrate. Give yourself an “It’s Over” party. For one night, indulge your sadness and laugh with friends.

8. Don’t overemote. Set limits on your self-indulgence. One woman told us: “I only allow myself to get the ‘take-to-my-bed blues’ once a year for any guy. More than that is just self-destructive.”

9. Don’t dance alone. Ask yourself this: If the relationship was not right for your partner, could it really have been right for you? It does take two to tango.

Stay tuned for more… Lynn